Forgiveness - Making the shift

Instead of thinking, "I will not forgive that person because..." shift it to, "I choose to hold on to the resentment of that pain because..."
How does holding on to that pain really help your life?
What benefit is there for you to keep it alive?
Once you make that shift inside, you will always find reason to forgive, and will never find reason not to. The key benefit to forgiving is the freedom to love and trust again.
~Doe Zantamata