|Viewing rejection as "you're not good enough" will cause you to try to change in order to become "good enough" for that person or circumstance.|
Seeing rejection as "it's not right for you, but they happened to recognize it first," frees you to find something or someone who is right for you instead.
At the heart of this shift in thinking are four very important things:
1. Love yourself
2. Accept yourself
3. Do your best
4. Have confidence in the other three.
|An enormous benefit of having self worth is that a person can accept an honest compliment gratefully, knowing inside that it's true. Sincere compliments feel good, just as they are intended to feel.|
Without self worth, a person can only reject or barely half accept a compliment, while deep inside wish in sadness that they could truly believe it. Compliments are not supposed to hurt.
|If a friend stops speaking with you because they believed gossip about you without even asking you “your side,” then you didn’t really lose a friend.|
You only lost a person who didn’t trust or believe in you...and that’s not really a loss at all.
It hurts because it feels unfair, and you would not have treated them the same way. But if that’s the choice they’ve made, you can really only accept it and let them go.
Even if you convince them this time, the absence of trust will not have changed, and will continue to hurt you in every future circumstance.